My Pronouns

"Hi, my name is Katrina Strohl and my pronouns are They/She/He."

I start almost every new conversation this way. Even if the person hosting the conversation doesn't share their pronouns and even if the person hosting looks confused when I do. I want that person to know what pronouns to use for me and that I won't be hiding any bit of me during our time together.


There are other ways to do this but I like a simple entrance. I actually mentioned a few of these examples during my time with Ricklyn Woods (She/Her).


Other ways to introduce your pronouns could sound like:

  • "I didn't get your pronouns. Could you share them with me?"

  • Requesting everyone involved have their pronouns visible (name tags, name plates, Zoom name, etc.)

  • “Hey, I'm XYZ and I use he/him pronouns. What pronouns do you use?”


Before last year I never really gave thought to my pronouns. I mean I had them on my profile and everywhere else I could think to put them but never really put any thought behind what they meant for me. I didn't take time to think until I misgendered Gaby Espana (They/Them) on Absolutely Not!

It was bad! I immediately apologized and made a better effort to not fuck it up again. That episode made me aware of the harm I was capable of causing. Harm I am now dedicated to preventing, educating on and contributing to the reduction of world wide.


Some of the words associated with that harm are:


After the episode I visited various places online, read several articles and books on gender and the binary people believe it to be. Along the way I found myself. In August of 2021, I started using They/She pronouns!

Now, I know those are not the pronouns I use today but I'm getting there. In December of 2021, I was out at a social event and was asked if I was masc or femme. Another binary I wasn't interested in participating in. I didn't have the answer then but it made me look even deeper into what I wanted to be "perceived as".